I am a divorce lawyer, and I love my job. Let me count the ways.

1. I like helping people and have found a niche and ability to do just that.
2. I truly care about people, especially those who are sincere and cooperative. Many persons going through divorce are grieving the loss of a relationship. They can be fearful regarding not knowing what to expect. Many do not even want to divorce. I am able to help by explaining the process, how it works, what to expect in the future, approximately how long the process may take, what is expected of them and the other side, and the approximate cost in terms of fees.
3. I save families every day. Children are a precious and fragile legacy.  I take the time to explain to my clients the necessity and reasons not to allow a stranger judge to rule. I encourage my clients to take the responsibility to resolve all issues, problems and concerns, especially those relating to children. That agreement is a gift that keeps on giving to their children.
4. I sleep well at night. I know I have done my best to help my clients understand the reasons to resolve matters.
5. I promote my clients’ minor children’s interests as my highest priority.
6. I do not particularly care for the word “DIVORCE.” I prefer “restructuring relationships.”
7. I actually promote marriage, mom and apple pie. However, if a divorce must occur, I feel fortunate to be able to help my clients with as smooth or less rocky transition from marriage.
8. I enjoy working with my clients, helping them through a hard time. My clients often tell me they know I care about them and are so appreciative.
9. Fairness is in the eyes of the beholder. I promote being firm for fairness. I do not ever advise my clients to give in to unreasonable demands. I actually find court enjoyable, as a last resort from the standpoint of a court of competition in which I am always prepared and always professional and never overbearing. I like to think my clients obtain as good of results as can be from the facts and law. My courtroom style is effective and appreciated by judges, who have told me this. With that said, I have never known of a truly good outcome in court in terms of money spent, time expended, and stress and aggravation to the client.
10. My clients are like family. We cooperate on all of the major matters in the end, but can respectfully agree to disagree. I ask my clients to be open to alternatives and creative options.
11. If a client wants to fight, I tell that client to hire someone else.
12. After 40 plus years of practice, I finally understand my role and job as a divorce lawyer. I know my style of practice is different from any other lawyer. I love my job and hope to be able to continue helping people for many years to come.
13. Divorce is a grief process. Loss of a relationship can be just as traumatic as death. I know, because I have had a divorce and am a widower. I know grief and its impact on coping and decision making. My past experiences with loss and grief not only make me a better person but better able to understand the emotional torment of clients.
14. The initial consultation between the divorce lawyer and prospective clients will likely determine the outcome of the case. At the initial consultation, I listen very carefully and assess my clients’ financial and emotional needs, assess my clients’ feelings toward their spouse and ability to be cooperative, reasonable and practical. I find that I am able to help many who express feelings of distrust, anger and fear. The key is to allow my clients to fully express their feelings.
15. Persons with traits of personality disorder are typically difficult to work with and require an entirely different approach from me as their lawyer. I find overly gracious and overly critical comments by a prospective client can either mean this person is married to a difficult person or this person is the difficult person. There are ways in which to attempt to work with difficult persons, but that would be the subject of much more time than we have here.